You've talked about how you and your H didn't interact that often, but yet it was the changes he saw in you that led him "back"... were you actively trying to use those limited times together to show what was different or was it just naturally who you were at that point, but enough was different that he could see it even if you saw each other for 10, 20 minutes? I hope that makes sense, it does in my head but hard to type out. How did you show you've changed when you have limited interaction, I guess, is my question?
Of course, in the beginning I was actively working on all my interactions, not just those with him. This was very new territory for me and it was work.
When we make changes from the inside out, they show even in the way we walk, or hold our head or the inflection in our voice. I was no longer "trying," it was me. I was also no longer focused on us being together.
Keep the focus on you, you don't know where you might be led. By being narrowly focused on the outcomes, we miss great opportunities along the way.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
