TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
My H teased me all the time for my enthusiasm for NPR. It is awesome.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I have come to a realization about a fear of mine. I recognize it, but how to overcome??
After BD, I went back to school to do a certificate program in the medical field. My classes have been great for me keeping me busy and a distraction.
They will end soon and I will have to get a job. I haven't worked in 20+ years. Being in school is easy. I still had a 2 week break to be home with my kids. Lucky I have been , yes. I could take a personal day from school if need be...(did that only once) My life and my kids lives are going to be different, no doubt about that.
My fear is getting the job at 49 years old.
I recognize it. know I have to do it.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Yes! You can do this! Think about your fear... what's the worst that could happen? It's not going to hurt you, it's not going to kill you, it could have a lot of GOOD positive things come out of it. Take baby steps, get your resume together, then just start sending it out. Then you could get interviews which can be nerve wracking but think of it as a new experience and a new part of your journey. It will make you stronger just accomplishing that alone. Meeting new people and getting new opportunities. Change is always scary but you just have to remind yourself that it will be ok, you'll learn from every new experience and none of them are going to kill you or put you in jail this is sort of what I tell myself when i'm afraid of something. I was afraid to go to divorce group, almost didn't go then said to myself, what are you afraid of? those people are in your same position, they're not going to bite or laugh at you, just do it! So I did and I'm stronger for it. Be proud of yourself for taking the classes. You are already becoming an independent woman and it's a good feeling we're all here to cheer you on!
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
yes, I need to get the resume done... Need to figure out how to maximize all my stay at home mom work experience!!
Did ask at a couple of places about "shadowing". They seemed receptive to it. Need to follow up on that ASAP. Finishing finals next week... Summer semester begins the week after that.
S17 races out of town next weekend. H booked hotel for me and D16( I guess when he was making his own reserve) I said thank you. It will be mother's day weekend. I want s20 to come along too. He will just be getting home from college. Don't think he really wants to.
h has not seen kids all week. said he can take D to dance tomorrow, I said that's fine. I plan to go to yoga.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
just got the settlement proposal from h. he wants to proceed with the d. made no mention about time with kids.
feeling very, very sad.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
I'm sorry to hear this. Some of them just have to prove to themselves and everyone else that a divorce needs to be done in order for them to move on. Quite honestly, the only moving on that they truly do is in their heads (the one that is connected to the neck and shoulders).
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I have been quite nice and accommodating and amicable.
I do the right things for me...therapy, GAL, spiritually.
I do feel the need to lash out a bit. To call h on his BS. that he makes no effort to spend time with the kids. I asked him about time with kids. h says for d16..."whenever I can" about s17- he's so busy.
I get that life is not fair. I get the best revenge is a life well lived. I pray and pray.
I have a test tomorrow...my skills check off which I am nervous about to begin with... I will do fine of course...
I have to give it to GOD. I know in my heart I have done my best. I know this is h's deal.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
couldn't sleep last night. want to say snarky things to stbx.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
this is sort of what I tell myself when i'm afraid of something. I was afraid to go to divorce group, almost didn't go then said to myself, what are you afraid of? those people are in your same position, they're not going to bite or laugh at you, just do it! So I did and I'm stronger for it. Be proud of yourself for taking the classes. You are already becoming an independent woman and it's a good feeling 
we're all here to cheer you on!