Kids go through phases. My sons would rather have their fingernails pulled out than go to a movie, for a walk, or whatever with me. I still know they love me because I'm their mom, and I still try, and have good humor when they say no. It's not rejection so much as individuation (not sure I've spelled that right) aka becoming their own men.
It would be silly of me to throw in the towel and distance myself from them because they don't want to hang out with me right now.
What matters is that they know I love them... because I make things they like to eat, because I hug and kiss them while they cringe sometimes, because I listen to them and ask questions. I'm their mom, so I assume they love me.
Your competition with your W is not good. You don't have to do grand productions to woo your daughter. Just keep inviting her on walks and meals out and talking to her, writing to her.
Kids only get two parents so you have very little competition for DAD. Just be one.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
