So I need some advise. Im pretty sure I know the answer already, but I have to throw it out there, so here goes.'
I spoke with WAW last night and come to find out the grass is not greener on the other side. Without going into full details, she was basically venting to me how hard life is now, how people have been giving her a hard time, and how stressed out she it. She said she misses the good times we had and has been really bummed out lately. She said she misses having me there to share the ups and downs of life with. I empathized with her like a pro(or at least I thought so.) But, after she vented she said that she is going to be "Okay" and that she is making the "right choice." (of course I didnt want to hear that last part, but this has always been her way of being STRONG)
About hour later I received a text from her that read "I appreciate you being sympathetic tonight. Its always nice when you are genuinely concerned and I can tell, So Thanks."
Our entire relationship she has always acted so tough, and never wants to come across as weak. Even if something was really bothering her she will vent, but then swing around and go back into business mode of "everything will be fine" and she sticks to it. I remember many times when I could clearly see/notice something was wrong with her and I would ask "how are you doing"? Every time I would get the same response of "Good". When it was sooo obvious she wasn't doing well. I would have to come close to her, look her in the eyes and ask "How are You Really Doing". Not until that point would she share her real feeling with me and sometimes truly break down. But, yet again it was brief and should would go back to the "Everything will be just fine mode."
Which brings me to my point that I need some advise on.
This is the first time since she dropped that bomb that she has opened up to me. Im sure I've read to deep into this already, but I can't help it. Would now be a time to try and talk with her. Maybe meet up for a cup a coffee to see if she is open to the idea "Trying" to work on our marriage. Let her know that I would be open to the idea of trying. Not the same marriage we had, but a new relationship. I know I shouldn't initiate any talks of R, but I dont think she ever will, (even if she wanted too) because it would be weak.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
