Cursed? Biology? Dude, I will call BS on that. Get that thought right out of your consciousness. What that thought does is take the responsibility for it away from where it belongs... on YOU.
YOU chose to do everything you did. You will be held accountable for every word, thought, and deed you ever did... Good or bad, the accountability is on YOU.
Man up and work on you instead of wasting the energy trying to pass the buck. Remember to give your wife some space. Don't crowd her... She needs alone time... her time with the kidlets... Remember the little guy hanging onto to her pant leg... Don't be him.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter