But, then I also thought I was supposed to make the most out of every interaction we DO have, and experiment with little things to see if they have a positive effect. How do I do that without seeming like I'm pursuing? I've tried light things-- complimenting his parenting, noticing a new outfit, bringing up some current events I'm sure he is interested in. When I speak to him warmly and enthusiastically, and he barely responds, or responds as a polite acquaintance, I feel foolish. Like I am pursuing someone who has already rejected me-- how lame.
How do I detach and give him space while also trying to show him a vision of what our (happy) future could be like?
Claire read your post back - ALL of the focus on on HIM, how you compliment HIM, how you interact with HIM, how HE has a new outfit... think about it?
The most affective way to show him what his future with you could be like is by showing him the best YOU, remove all focus from him and focus on yourself and being the person that you want to be regardless of your H's reactions to that. Its so hard but you have to stop looking over your shoulder to see what your H is doing and do it because you WANT to be a better and more attractive person.
Does that make sense? You doing amazing
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
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