Spoue tried I didn't, now opposite #2

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MrCas, thinking about the couple of months doesn't erase the decade of bad. It seems my issue has a reoccurring family theme. My father drove my mother to divorce over his internal anger issues. My W is close to both my stepmom and mother. Stepmom told W that she just can't see why my mom divorced my dad because he is such a loving, caring, God fearing man. My mom in the past has told W how my dad acted and treated her. My father didn't show changes until 2 years after divorce! My uncle went through the same scenario (their marriage survived). My cousin is currently going through separation as he walked out too. I guess I'm searching for if our internal anger issue is more biology than anything? My dad is now a great guy (and oh how my sister and I remember the bad times), my out of state uncle is now a calm collected man in retirement, not close to my cousin so questions there, but I'm actually feeling better that I may have hope after all. Is it just a phase I'm cursed with? Holy cow how do I know?

I'm just now learning to go back to my fun hobbies (golfing, hunting, working out, etc). It does cause friction, but I think if W and I are both happy our children will be benefit.