No, 2TH - I can't say that I have found the middle ground with communication just yet. To be honest, I think I am just working my way through the anger and "wtf" stage here recently so I know a change in communication style is probably coming. That is NOT to say that I plan on increasing communication....I have, indeed, gone dark and do not really respond unless I have to and I certainly do not reach out proactively....not anymore. Without really speaking about it, I think she knows where I am with everything. As noted before, I believe I am saying a lot more with silence than I ever really did in writing or other forms of communication.
I am sure that as times moves on I will find the middle ground for interaction....and get better at it. Before OM, it was fairly decent......but I am not there yet.
Crimson
I hear ya. I'm in the same boat right now. The difference this time for me is that I've lost so much respect for my ex with her choice of om and the crap she was pulling on fb. All the other om were way easier to deal with. I was able to hang out with her and be very very amicable and friendly. This time I'm very disappointed in her so going dark is the best option for me. She's trying to be friendly which makes it hard.
The thing that made things easier for me the first time she got an om(she's seriously had about 5-10 in 2 years!), was I kept telling myself I would take the high road and not go into anger mode. If anything I wanted to prove to her(and myself) that I was a changed person. She eventually came back but I f'd up the piecing process.
Good luck man, I know you will make it to the happy side.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
