For example... it has been suggested that I have an alcohol or other addiction. This is far from the truth! As suggested, I went to the doctor to enquire about it (felt obligated to follow the suggestion, was even challenged). When I was ensured that there wasn't a problem, this person still insisted over and over... Now, how would you/anyone respectfully hold your ground on a crazy notion such as this? I am insulted to keep having to hear it. I drink casually, socially & even less than EVER before.
Just to clarify, that would me.
What I suggested was that there was another problem, possibly addiction because you seemed very stuck and resistant to any and all advice given. I also said I could be wrong and that the point I was trying to make was...there appeared to be another issue at hand. Some issue which made you very defiant and resistant and defensive.
You may have also noticed that I shut up when Rick pointed out the whole help-rejecting information which I found very interesting.
Yet, since this strikes such a nerve, I do still wonder about something else going on. I think that's what the boards are for...we put ourselves out there and just never know what others will come up with as solutions/issues. If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit.
I don't post daily or even weekly on your thread. I gave you my thoughts because I saw you and, even more so, others becoming very upset when trying to give you advice/help.
To me, that's a trademark for addiction [b]or some other elusive problem we can't see in the virtual world:
I saw you being the eye of the storm while others trying to help you became all embroiled in the helping and make themselves sorta crazeee while trying to help you. I recognize that because I was one of those trying so hard to help someone for a very long time, to no avail. [/b]
For what it's worth, I'm glad you felt motivated to look at it.
And, I do think it's interesting how upset it made you and how it seemed to strike a nerve. Doesn't mean I'm right, just means that something about the idea really bugged you. My question is, "How come?"
In my world, when someone offers a reason for me being stuck and acting out in self-defeating behaviors, I'm interested in the possibility of it, because, then, Thank God!! there may be a way out...and a reason for why I do the things I do.
Like when Rick offered up the ideas on help-rejecting...I find it really kind and telling how Job looked it up and immediately started responding to you in a way that she felt may help.
Did you look it up?? If not, how come? I woulda been all over that like a monkey with a banana.
IDK. Take care.
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