She left - 4

[gogofo]

You're both being cagey with communication and if you're going to "date" you might want to think about that going forward. You're moving from LBS to piecing couple (maybe) and that requires more openness. Are you ready for that?

I am absolutely ready for that. We never completely or properly expressed our feelings to each other before, but have been doing so a little when we would talk not. I told her it will require work, from both of us, to make this better. I told her that I want to learn how to show and display my love to her in a way that she will recognize and understand my feelings.

Cagey is correct. We are both playing our emotions and feelings close to the chest, her way more than I. When we talk I can see her physically holding in her emotions. At times when I make her laugh her guard comes down and her face lights up and the tension leaves her body.

I take her saying she is "try" as her starting to open up her heart and emotions again instead of having me shut out. We both talked about taking this slow, not rushing into it.

Perhaps before you go on a date, read up on the latest news or some joke. Make it more interesting instead of just you and the kids.

My plan is to take this as a serious first date and reintroduce ourselves to each other. She even said that we have been estranged the last 4 months and I agree. This will be a reintroduction to each other and see how we have grown. I don't even want to talk about our kids. We know each other and our kids, we need to strengthen the bond between us as people other than parents. That is a part of what is missing for us.