She left - 4

[labug]

That's good but be really careful.

Your W has the same fear most WAS's have and they usually have them for good reasons as you noted above

I don't plan on dropping this action, but who does. I guess if the goal was to win her back then the likely hood that I would stop would be pretty high. Especially based on my past performance of settling back into the same old me.

My H had the same fear, still does a bit but it's lessening.

You're both being cagey with communication and if you're going to "date" you might want to think about that going forward. You're moving from LBS to piecing couple (maybe) and that requires more openness. Are you ready for that?

Being honest about feelings and not taking things personally is so important to building a new R. How do you propose navigating that?

Those values we talked about before, they enter into this, too.

I don't see her confusion as a bad thing. Your changes confused her enough that she possibly needed to look at you with different eyes. She took that second look.

Just don't scare the squirrel.