Funeral for a husband, love lies bleeding

[cczamo]

I failed to mention that H came over last Sunday to start moving packed boxes from his 2 "staging area bedrooms" to the garage. He had color coded order of laying them out from back to edge (Last in first out system). My sister, who is moving in to house with my niece in a few weeks had been over with her boyfriend. We'd been cleaning out places in attic and storage shed for her to put things. We'd started working in garage and H arrived, making known that he expected us all to stay out of his way. My Sister's boyfriend, David (who has known and liked my H for years) spoke out and said, "we wont be in your way, man...keep on doing your thing, and we'll be fine doing ours!" to which H said, "well I'M the one on a deadline and moving" in a very antagonistic voice. My sister chimed in "I'm moving too, and I need to get stuff ready as well." and her boyfriend David, got visibly upset. My H then said "F.U., David", to which David said "F.U. H"....then shouting match ensued. I walked up to H and said, "do I need to call the police?" H shouted "I'm entitled to be in this house through end of April!!!" and I said, as calmly as possible, "and your move out date wiht movers is May 2nd, after you are entitled to access. So if you'll just work with me, I'll be willing to work with you." H stormed back in to the house, but he did come out later and apologized to David. "hey man, i really like you. You're a great guy and I'm sorry I lost my temper back then. " and then an hour later H came to David and said "you and your brother Joe were always such great hosts and gracious friends to me, so please again accept my apology, and give my best to your brother for me." H tried to apologize to my sister, but she did not respond to him. she later told me that she was so upset that she could not speak. H apologized to me a few days later saying that he was embarrassed at what he said and did. H has been very nice to me as this last few days have passed and he's been out to house to pick up things. he's set up my new sound system/speakers/tv set up, as it's all greek to me. He even told me that he'd come back later after his move settled down to rewire the Klipsch speakers better as he didnt like how he did it first time. He left all his keys other than last one to gain access for tomorrow. Locksmith coming next Tuesday. He'll get his two dogs (my fur babies, alas!!), and we'll discuss later how the dog sitting will work.
this is all REALLY going down.
With the exception of the garage shouting match, and asking him if I needed to call police (as nicely as I could), I've been trying to be the nice (but detached) wife he'd be crazy to leave.

Trying now (Thursday) to plan for the GAL weekend ahead. I go to dinner/movie Friday night, but other than that and church on Sunday, i have no real plans. Maybe I'll go to the lake and run/walk around it Saturday morning. Unfortunately, H does same on Sat mornings usually (15+ years ago, I invited him to do this with me and my Saturday morning lake running group), so may see him there. But it's a big lake and lots of people go around it. Sat am lake-running was a part of me before meeting him, and it will be a part of me after him.