Most times there is a stipulation in the paperwork saying she has to have your permission to move over a certain distance away and she has to give you at least 30 days notice of a proposed move.
Not that you have to stop it...but there should be options there for you
Cori's decree says that he is to have 30 notice of move and she can't move more than 50 miles from her current residence (not that she complies with any order anywhere but...at least it is there)
We also meet her half way for drop offs and pick ups (so Sioux Falls)...a 3.5 hour drive
My D also has the same clause that Fig's does. I can't move the girls without his sign off?
That totally svcks, man. Your XW sure sounds like a nut job. I hope you can get some sort of answers. I honestly believe that kids do better with both parents in their lives. They can manage for sure, but...
Good luck, buddy.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
well..it's been awhile. lots of things happening. ex took off with the kids supposedly. she wont answer her phone. wont return texts. it's my daughters birthday tomorrow. i havent seen them in a little over 2 months or heard from them. i'm waiting to hear from legal services. then i hear from a girl i know who is a housekeeper. my XW has been living in a hotel in town with my kids for the last 3 months. saying she is hiding from her crazy ex husband... but yet wont let me see my kids. i dont get it..
i also think that i am destined to be single forever. i have went out on dates with numerous women. they all seem in a hurry to jump into a R and when i tell them that it makes me uncomfortable to move that fast they get all mad and call me a game player..whatever.. i also have felt no real connection with anyone. i refuse to settle so i think im just never going to have someone. it kinda bites but at the same time i like my me time.
school is going great on campus. i work for a social marketing team promoting low risk drinking guidelines, safe sex and proper dating behavior. i do some graphic design and am one of the lead planners for campaigns. one i planned is nominated for best event of the year. i really like doing these things. i also have A's in all 4 of my classes right now.
Congrats on your good grades & the work you've got going on. As far as dating - maybe take a look at the message you're sending out. Why are these women saying you're a player?
Right now you need to focus on your kids. Armed with your custody paperwork - you should be able to involve the police or family court to get this situation resolved. Consider it an emergency & treat it as such. It's a nightmare!
You're pretty savvy about the courts and your XW so I trust you're doing the right thing.
Maybe the Universe is protecting you right now, knowing that you've got important things to work out around your babies and XW. The last thing you need is a R, especially a needy one. There's no rule that you have to be coupled.
Great news about school. You have so much potential.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I do agree with Bug on there being an underlying protecting reason for all of this crap. But I'm really sorry that you don't have access to your kids.
And a congratulatory hug from me for kicking butt in school. Good for you!
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i refuse to settle so i think im just never going to have someone. it kinda bites but at the same time i like my me time.
Hang in there, friend. WHEN you're ready and the situations have healed themselves, you'll get another shot at it. You're young and you have plenty of time. Keep doing healthy things and you will be rewarded with a healthy woman and a shot at long term happiness.
Hugs- Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
i was riding my bike up to the school to work at an event i put on tonight. who did i see sitting at a stop sign? my ex and my kids. i stopped in front of her and asked her to roll down her window. she tried to pretend she didnt see me. my son rolled down his and said hi dad! i said hi buddy i miss you! my daughter wouldnt look at me. acted afraid or something. he asked why i havent seen them. i told him i have been trying every day to get ahold of him. ex then rolls down her window and says to stop lying to him. i asked her why she hasnt answered her phone or returned any text messages? she said "you havent tried to call once! what phone calls? and you can't prove it anyway!" i just started to laugh.. i asked her if she wanted to see my phone. she then says my daughter threw hers in the pool and is using my sons. i asked why she hasnt answered that one because i text him everyday? she had nothing to say. my son asked if he could come over and hang out. i told him i loved that and i would call him tomorrow. she then screeched away without letting me say goodbye.. i just don't understand what is going on.. it is ridiculous. i feel so bad for my kids.. and me i just try to put a smile on my face and think positive.
i just try to put a smile on my face and think positive.