Bunches, you are mind reading. You can't honestly know what she is thinking until she says it.
Back to the point at hand...
VLS... you have to what is right for you. At the end of the day, DBing is about saving you first. If your M comes through intact, that is a bonus.
Work your program. Make the changes. Keep doing them until they become second nature. She just might start to realize that her choice to want out is folly and she would be a fool to leave.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
