There's no way to have a relationship with someone who doesn't want to have a relationship. She is hyper critical of everything I say or do, making her very unpleasant and unapproachable at home. She is still expending loads of energy making me the bad guy, including telling vile, outright slanderous lies to friends. I may be reading it wrong, but I think the fact that she still works so hard to hate me must mean she is still very conflicted and that should give me hope - i.e. if she were truly comfortable with leaving, she'd be over hating me to justify it.
Ahhh, you are very wise, Grasshoppah.
Don't lose hope, Zew. BEGIN MOVING ON, and keep up with your changes, but "moving on" doesn't mean "giving up." Five days before my wife tearfully begged her way back into our marriage, she was telling OM that "you are the only one who ever did it for me," and professing her undying love. FIVE DAYS.
Her re-contact has put her back into wayward thinking, you are correct. Nothing more, nothing less. It's still all just standard SCRIPT.
