W received a call from OM yesterday and they talked for 15 minutes. Just chit chat as friends
No such thing "as friends". These were lovers making contact again.
She will be thrilled for him to pursue her.....and even encouraged him when she asked him "catch up soon?"
Your status has not changed, Zew. As long as she has OM in her head your status has not changed from a WAW in an A. I know you guys put a lot of stock in the physical sex act and feel relief if/when you believe it has discontinued between the AP, but emotionally the A is still very much alive. By the 11th day, their withdrawal pains were getting strong for each of them. So, if she even tries to break it off again, she will have to start back at square one.
I wish I could tell her that she will not be able to talk to that guy under the guise of "friend".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
