In my particular situation no OM involved that I know of. Even still, a couple of close mutual friends tried initially to talk to W and they were subsequently shut out for quite a long time. W just surrounded herself with different group of friends who she had less of a history with and who didn't know me.
Now common friends have taken a similar stance as what you describe above, along the lines of "ideally we would very much like you guys to work things out but if not really want both of you to be happy". That way they still have some interaction with W.
Sounds like a cop out to me but I have at least learned 1 lesson thru all of this. So on that topic I decide to drink a big 'ol glass of STFU.
Seems like in my story (and from some other examples shared here) WAS's often have a tendency to take steps to ensure that their situation "matches" the scenario they have created or want.
The important thing that the LBS has to remember (2x4 for myself here) is that we can't change the approach the WAS decides to take. We can only work on our own path / journey.
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
