Take out the "let's make a deal" sentence. We all know she doesn't make deals with you. Take out "okay?" - you're not asking her a favor. Add specific about when you tell each other. She did tell you...five minutes before leaving. I think you mean tell each other *during the planning stages*.
Is there an "or else" that you can think of? I think it's this, but you may or others may have better ideas. "For the good of our daughter, her mom and dad must be good coparents. We may not be in a marriage but we will always both be her parents. If you expect me to tell you my plans with our kids, I expect you to do the same."
If this does turn out to be related to your unilateral decision to take S on a trip, you should apologize for that and agree now that you know how it feels to have a decision like that made without your input, you think you both should be more forthcoming about your plans.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
