"I am a dog with a bone... I do not seem to let things go, when I feel I am not heard....GRRRRR .... I did it again!!!"
That has been your problem with many who post to you which is why we get frustrated. I hope that makes sense to you.
"I got impatient earlier today after he asked me to define exclusive. I should have fluffed it off, because we had already declared it verbally & was accepted."
YOu still don't get it. You coerced him into "accepting" things when at the root of it, HE is still the one with the internal problems. You are still forcing him to try and see things your way the same way you do to the posters here.
And before you argue that point, YOU DO IT ALL THE TIME.
"But no, I had to go and discuss it again & then try to fix it because I felt it was now coming off as pressure & we were interrupted and I never did hear his response... it was not clear. I was eventually able to bring it back to light & casual.... but, I see the damage it was doing & I see how it was making me feel."
Again, it's something you do to the posters as well.
"What I need to do for me is to trust the outcome & let it go. To not try to fix it. As much as I want to say "ok, sorry... I feel misunderstood & can we clarify it again?"
Don't you realize that's what we ALL have been banging our heads trying to tell you this whole time?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
