Unlearning conflict avoidance 12

[MrBond]

Wait a minute. Are you actually telling us that you don't mind your W just taking your D without telling you for 4 days, yet you get upset at her not closing a window? What's wrong with this picture? You should have put your foot down and told her that when it comes to the children, she HAS to tell you.

"I simply feel that my W has won in regards to my d16, out-charming me, being more interesting than I, being more open than I, etc."

BS. You were doing better at opening up to your d. Your relationship isn't a lost cause. That's just you saying that to yourself. The only person stopping you from having a good relationship with your d is you.

"W also doesn't ask, or only seldom so, about my day or what I've done. For instance, I was at a meetup about possible futures a while ago, very interesting, which could have been interesting to talk about. W asked nothing."

So what? That shouldn't stop you from engaging with her or not.

"I sent W the (excellent) editorial from the latest Jacobin magazine, which discusses a question my W and I have wondered about for years. No response. "

Same here.

Geez man! Get some b@ll$ for goodness sake and get off the pity party.