XW: Decree says 2 weeks non-consecutive boy to exceed 10 days...Am looking at July 4-July 13th for trip to Iowa
Me: Doesn't work. That's 13 nights away since you have him starting that Tuesday night the first
XW: I didn't say the entire time - I'm giving you a range. Also the issue of dividing 401k from (former employer) has not been addressed.
Me: We can handle. It's not a problem.
Me: Let me know what specific dates you are asking for. Also, your dates were to be selected by the 15th of April since it was your year to pick first and that didn't happen.
Me: You also claimed him on your taxes this year - which is illegal. When it says you can claim him in 2014 that meant tax year 2014. I caused my tax filing for both federal and state to be rejected and reduced my refund by $700.
Me: This is not a good time for me to discuss/debate - so please leave me alone. I will make arrangements for 401k.
She stopped responding. She is p*ssed and I am officially the a55hole. Maybe I should not have mentioned the taxes, but she clearly through out the 401k to jab at me. It's the first time I have really thrown specifics about the decree in her face with regard to what she wanted and I am shaking with anger, fear and a bunch of other emotions. I don't even know if I handled it right. I don't know what to do and feel like I am revving at 100 miles an hour. There is part of me that STILL doesn't want her angry...that doesn't want to be the a55hole because I think it will make things even worse than they are. But I am committed to no longer being a pushover and making her feel the impact of her decisions.
Please tell me that I did the right thing. I feel terrible and my heart is racing.
