Sparingly is what the invitations would be. I have not invited her to anything except to join the kids and I to look at a train next week. I think I am going to plan the memorial day weekend trip and extend an invitation, but nothing else until then.
Right before BD when I had a plan to strengthen our M after a warning from the W, I planned an out of town trip and lined up child care etc. She was impressed and said "you did that?" with pleasant surprise. She even jumped up and booked the hotel when I told her I was going to do it. She was excited and feeling loved.
But when I said it coincided with car repairs and maintenance it made her feel like an after thought and probably made things worse and might have figured into BD. She mentioned before that she hated only going out of town for car maintenance, so I proved her correct in her opinion that I don't listen and will never change. She was in a very emotionally vulnerable state, for good reason, and I think that this incident was one of the nails in the coffin.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
