One more thing. She said while we were living together again that she felt that there is just a natural "flow" to relationships where things just work. There is no need to change or adapt because of this natural flow of how two people connect and relate. IF it's not there, and you are "working" on a relationship then you are forcing it. And if you are forcing it, then it does not need to be. When you have this "flow" there is no need to change...who and what you are is perfectly sufficient and you have no need to change.....your relationship just....."works". We did not have that "flow" in her eyes. I don't think ANYONE in a relationship that has stood the test of time does.
Yeah, you already know this but... it's worth repeating. That is a completely unrealistic view of how most long-term relationships work. Maybe that's what life needs to teach her.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
