I found out that EA had moved to PA before I knew better and was reading texts. OW does not have own home - she lives with her mommy, so it is possible things could be happening at my house. I am just assuming that they are while we are all gone in the mornings.. Why would he suddenly wash sheets since he has not done laundry in 15 years?
You are right things have been escalating the last week. I am doing more of GAL with kids, and am seeing more controlling behavior and monstering. I also have reached of stage of anger (this is new as I am not an angry person.)
I need to set boundaries. It is tough since there really is no consequence if he breaks them. I feel like I am circling and stressing. I also don't know what I should be doing when I interact with him. I am nice let him start conversation and agree with what he is saying. But I am wondering if I should go dark or dim. When this all started H has shoved me away - no affection, hugs, kisses after first month or two - "I am putting up my wall. I am done trying" From the outside we look like a happy family because we still do things together.
I am swimming this week. Thanks for listening. Any suggestions are thoughts would be great. I will go back and read train again. THANKS
