I am going to talk myself into doing the right thing here...
So W is telling several people that "Zew is so mean, he only put $x on my CC this month and I have to buy food and clothes for the kids..."
In fact, I put $250, then $x, then $x again spread over two paychecks. W was told of all these, but she tends to not hear much of what I say, and she is not in the habit of ever looking at her balance, even when she is so close to the limit.
There is one particular person she has told this story. This person knows everything of our sitch. She was a good friend to both of us. In fact, back in Jan. a few days after my W told her everything, I met her and told her everything. She is one of a few of W's friends that I think W would really listen to. Although she seems to get that it is a bad idea to make life altering decisions while in an A, she has turned out to be pro-W and pro-D. (she ratted me out to W on my visit to her)
I was very tempted to show this friend the CC transaction sheet showing payments of $2x+250, just to show that W is not being straight with her. My thought was that maybe if she realizes that W is lying about that, a whole lot of her story might not add up, and she might use her influence with W to help her back to reality. And it wouldn't be me controlling, she'd be confronted with facts. And since she knows everything, what can a few facts hurt?
However, I realize that she ratted me out once, and would probably do it again. And even if she came to know that W was lying to her, I have no reason to believe she would be any more sympathetic. I used to think she was a reasonable friend, but in spite of seeing W in complete confusion, she is the one urging W to file before I do. I'm sure she just wants W to be happy.
