I think I belong here #3

[BrightFuture]

Praying, I’ve been where you are. I was thinking too much about the future… I cried a lot… I missed H… Every step he took toward moving further away from (like having separate bank account, etc.) made me miserable and I was thinking that it was it, it was real… I could not accept what was happening, I didn’t not believe it… When I married him I thought it was forever… I could not imagine my life without him…

I know exactly what you are going through. Unfortunately there is not a fast way to get through this. It will get better. I think that being in denial kind of helped me to have some hope. I always thought that H would not find anybody better than me. And guess what, after almost 2 years, he doesn’t have anyone permanent.

Your H is in infatuation stage with OW. This is why he thinks that he is sure about what he is doing, he is moving on. He needs to go through it and learn that grass is not greener on the other side. It will take some time. There is nothing you can do right to stop him from wanting a D. And more you resist, more determined he will be. I always remind myself “In relationship, what you resist persists.” So, let him do the work.


Take care of yourself and come here to vent. We are here for you.