stumps, have been reading a little bit about your situation and wanted to drop a quick note.
You seem to be doing really well - especially given that you have only recently found yourself in this situation. I think that I was in shock and reacting from a purely emotionally place for way too long.
Congratulations on your handling of the situation and the progress you have made so far...... My guess is that you are already aware of this but many of your W's actions are very typical and it's probably best as you mentioned above to not point these things out or follow up. Right now, let her dictate the pace a bit I think would be the appropriate course of action.
Keep working on becoming the best you that you can be and stay strong!
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork