Magic, You have to learn to step outside your comfort zone and learn to make decisions. You can't continue to pile up the issues in the middle of the floor, expecting to walk around them for the rest of your life. Eventually that pile of issues will take on a life of its own and then you will be shoved against the wall to either bulldoze thru the pile or not even try to get to the other side of the issues. You, and only you can make those decisions that affect you.
If you were comfortable with your definition, then that is all that matters. What I think should not have any bearing on what you decide to do. Remember, own your thoughts and make decisions that you can own, no matter what.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
