Doing nothing is also an action. Your H's latest text about OW is just thinking out loud and does not require a response. It's not an emergency. Leave him with his own thoughts.
As for your recent response to H's text about D17 filling out info for financial aid, it was short and to the point. Nothing more is necessary. This is WHAT works. Nothing too dramatic or writing War & Peace to H. In time, H will see clearly the contrast between the calm, cool, & collected Train and the OW. Patience. It's a'comin! Let the OW become the needy and clingy person!
P.S. Not sure if you asked here or not...nope, I'm not reconciled with Ms. Wonka. Can't recall who is asking what these days!
Your H's latest text about OW is just thinking out loud and does not require a response. It's not an emergency. Leave him with his own thoughts. 