Growth requires space—actual physical space, as well as space in your schedule.
I tend to see two reasons people don’t create this space:
They think it’s selfish. They have kids, work, afraid w will finally settled with OM or replace them, chores, and obligations. It would be selfish to put those off just for themselves. Or they don’t think it’s possible. They have kids, work, chores, and obligations. Who has time or energy to undertake anything else? While both of those are really symptoms of not taking it seriously, there is more to it.
If you think it’s selfish to create time for you—to chase a dream, to process an emotion, to rest and reconnect—you’re not seeing one very important fact:
You can’t give to others what you don’t have, and you don’t have what you don’t take the time to give to yourself.
Growth requires self-compassion, patience, and generosity. If you ignore it, it will nag you, deplete you, and bury you in stress.
But when you give yourself the things you need, you soon begin to overflow those same things—the compassion, patience, love and generosity – back into your world.
When your soul is filled up to overflowing, the feeling of impossibility takes care of itself.
Make the things that matter—such as self-care, compassion, your kids and authenticity—priorities, and you’ll find you have the time and energy to create the life you visualize. With or without your wife. You can do it man!
