Originally Posted By: Oxford1
Originally Posted By: gogofo
Why did you feel the need to tell her the bag story? How did you expect her to react? How do you think she felt when you told her that? What was your motivation?

There are no tricks or short cuts to changing behavior. You have to really want to change and then constantly keep doing the work. It's all up to you.


I know.. Sometimes I am such a dope!

I think I need to stop talking so much, less talk more action, more improve on me...


These aren't questions to answer to me, they are questions to ask and answer to yourself.

"Sometimes I am such a dope" does not even skim the surface of the amount of introspection required to stop actions or make changes to your personality. Your are going to have to fight at least 27 years, if not 53 years, of doing the same thing.

Stop talking is barely step one. You need to look deep inside yourself at your motivations and feelings.


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