Train,

You're doing so well in DBing your H who is clearly coming to some slow realizations on his own.

I do want to comment on some of these points:

Originally Posted By: Train

1. A NC-letter, approved by me, to OW,
2. A full transparency plan,
3. A psychological evaluation and then IC and MC


Psychological evaluation?!! WTH??! For what reason? I wouldn't pursue it if I were you. It would not bring you closer to your goal of a R at all.