She moved home but still in love with OM!

[Oxford1]

Mr. Bond

I screwed big time. I went on several boards because I thought that would be the best. Now I have so much advice in my head I don't know what to do. Plus I am getting attacked as a Troll( except for a lord of the rings character, I don't even know what that is)

I just want to save my marriage, but when I got attacked my head spun and I took it out on WS, I got into attacking the OM and lecturing etc...all the stuff that drove her out.

We are trying to spend time together I am trying to get her to break her addiction to OM, I just don't know what to do.

She wants to go for IC, but some say it's bad it will turn her away from me...I a so confused right now..

[MrBond]

I don't recall you being called a 'Troll' on here. Was it this site?

[Cadet]

I don't recall you being called a 'Troll' on here. Was it this site?

I dont think so

[Oxford1]

Someone PM me on another site and called me a troll

[Wonka]

Leave that site, Oxford. You don't need to put up with those negative people!

[Oxford1]

I have made an appointment to talk to my coach.. It's been a while. I wanted to wait a bit.
So I finally figured that I am not going to pursue her. I have put my wife I to the friend zone. I will treat her like a friendly roommate.

I DID ENTER MY "dig habit" again. Why so I keep,doing this ? Is there a trick,to,stopping?

I told her a friend had the same hospital supplied gym bag she gives to her patients. I told her it was a workout buddy's ex wife. She realized that she was this woman who left her husband due to an affair,and the OM kicked her out too and now she's with someone new. I said we were amazed at the gym it was like everyone in her hospital has had an affair..I for the snap back " I don't want to get into that now".

That was when I first got home at 8:30: after that we were fine.

When I went to get s15 to stop studying and put down his book, before I could react she kissed me on the cheek and said goodnight. I love you!

Probably more manipulation , not sure what to make of it? This is where I get stuck...is it best to ignore it?

[gogofo]

Why did you feel the need to tell her the bag story? How did you expect her to react? How do you think she felt when you told her that? What was your motivation?

There are no tricks or short cuts to changing behavior. You have to really want to change and then constantly keep doing the work. It's all up to you.

[Oxford1]

Why did you feel the need to tell her the bag story? How did you expect her to react? How do you think she felt when you told her that? What was your motivation?

There are no tricks or short cuts to changing behavior. You have to really want to change and then constantly keep doing the work. It's all up to you.

I know.. Sometimes I am such a dope!

I think I need to stop talking so much, less talk more action, more improve on me...

[Oxford1]

Leave that site, Oxford. You don't need to put up with those negative people!

Ok...

[Oxford1]

I have a question for you. She invites me to sit on the marital bed (she's sleeping in that room) and watch TV with her. I am not sure this would make sense.

I did this one night because she was very depressed (could be faking it) and I feel to sleep. She let me satay there until around midnight and then I went to my room.

She has also invited me to move all my stuff back in the room.
She's only been home 1.5 weeks.

I have pretty much resolved to be a friendly roommate versus " trying to win her back".