That has to be tough. From what I have read it seems like typical WAW. She's wavering but doesn't like it, she had her mind made up and thought she knew how you would react to it but you've done the complete opposite.
And the too much R talk? I wouldn't worry too much about it. It seems like it may have been warranted. You didn't initiate the conversation, so I think that is big.
Good luck! Keep at it!
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