Sent this to W today. I'm adding it to this thread for information/journaling.
"Hi W I would like to raise adding to the current arrangements the following:
(i) one evening during the week that I don't have D2 over the weekend. This will enable D2 and I to see each other each week, instead of on a fortnightly basis. For example, I could collect her from the crèche [at my work - where D2 already goes]Wednesday evening and take her back into the crèche on the Thursday morning. I appreciate that you may consider this disruptive for D2 but given that I live close by and she is quite familiar with my place now I think she would adjust quickly as it becomes a new routine especially if I follow the same system you do i.e. dinner, brush teeth, story time, bed. I think that it is in D2's best interests to have meaningful routine parental relationships with both of us beyond the constraints of a “visiting” or “access” relationship and I wish to pursue that objective while respecting the desire for incremental change.
(ii) the NZ public holidays to be considered separately from a normal week. I would like for us to have a list of them and then agree which ones we have D2 for - I imagine every other year is a reasonable way to do it. If I don't have D2 for [National Holiday] day this year, I would like to have her next year, for example.
(iii) to considered as first choice "baby-sitter". Obviously, I can't always do it, including when you both may be out of Wellington. I will let you know asap if I can't do it so as not to inconvenience you.
I would be grateful if you could provide me with an earlier update re: whether D2 and I will be driving up to [W's parent's farm] [2.5 hour drive there] on the Sunday when I’ve D2 for the weekend. This information will help me to plan a bit better.
