I'll say, 'I think we can work it out but, obviously, I can't force u to stay M to me. Let's get the house ready to sell, break the news carefully to our son, friends, family and iron out the details for D.'
Are you really and truly prepared to follow through with this?
Personally, I think you could go to your W and say, "Hey, look... I lost my mind for a period. I am not about to blow apart someone else's family over this. It is bad enough that our family is being affected by this.
However, I can't let this keep going on. My boundaries are XXXXX, XXXX, and XXXX. If this is unacceptable to then we need to decide what course of action we are going to take."
If your state has no fault divorce then it is not going to matter diddly squat what evidence you have regarding anything. I think that you can have a graceful exit out of your corner with a little eating the proverbial sh*t sandwich. The great part about making your own sandwich is that you get to choose the bread...
My state is no fault. The A won't affect the outcome of a D at all.
I am prepared to follow through with a D. It's not what my W or I want right now but we have some big problems. I can't put up with this disrespect much longer.
You have some great points. I could certainly use your type of spin and back out of the exposure. I can tell her that I was angry before but I've moved past it which is true. I can tell my W I came very close to exposing the A to the OM's W but I just knew it would mean her world would come apart. All of it is true.
