My struggle is knowing everything I say is critiqued & criticized & prejudged (although was expected) because I am/was the problem and wouldn't have asked for help (not my norm) if it wasn't my greatest goal.
First of all the best thing is for you to have NO EXPECTATIONS!
Next is the advice that I give to all men.
Be the BEST DAD that you can BE, that is VERY attractive.
How do you want to leave your legacy to those children?