When I do something to protect myself financially that will surely upset my W what is the DB way to handle it.

It is something that I believe her L would advise her to do but if I do it will be perceived as ruthless.

I know I need to do these things to protect myself but I still feel dirty doing it. but based on the D complaint she is really being told to ask for the moon which I guess is normal.

Me 47/W 34
T 16 M 13
No kids
BD 6/2013
W asked that I move out 6/2013
I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013
separate beds not much talking
Served D Complaint 5/2014
W moved out 9/27/2014