I guess sometimes it's good to sit back and think about what progress is actually measured in. Thanks for pointing that out.
One of the things I realize I did in the past was control our finances. We had zero debt, and were in a great position with our mortgage. Obviously with L advice to not change the financial situation, and her now maintaining a different residence for the near short term, out financial situation has changed. We also just received our tax bills. Normally a dividend from my company would help out with all this. However, my L and accountant have advised against this given my situation, and I will not be doing that following their advice
My W asked if a company dividend would be taking care of the debt. I explained that given the situation, it was not appropriate. Nothing else has changed except for our debt.
In a long winded way, I guess by projecting I am trying to show her what the financial ramifications will be, without changing anything. Dividends are only taken every few years, so that won't be a problem.
Trying to paint a picture of the financial future, without implementing it is my goal. And really, I think I am still being controlling then.
Clearly that is a realization she will need to come to on her own, without my direct or indirect help. This controlling thing, bad habit
