Couple of things...

First, you say this:
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Nothing seems to be changing at any pace.

But then you follow with these recent changes:
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she is now taking the kids a few nights a week. This is actually serving two purposes. It gives me a chance to GAL.

which are both good for you, and raining reality on her. And all this after a meeting last week which cleared the air between you. How is this not positive change?


Second thing:
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The challenge for me now is to induce project the financial reality that will also occur without appearing to, or being controlling.

"project" sounds like a very carefully chosen verb. What exactly to you mean to do?