What's Stance On Exposing A To OM's (OW's) Spouse?

[woundedfool]

I am in the camp of not exposing. But I do agree with others that you really painted yourself into a corner.

I was think about how each circumstance plays out:

1. You keep the secret, affair:
a. fizzles out on its own
b. lingers on

2. You tell the other spouse, affair:
a. fizzles out on its own
b. lingers on, with more deception & hiding

I see no advantage to outing the A, Ultimatums/pressure rarely seem to help anything.

Side note: document the details of the A in a very secret place. Could be require if D ever comes into play.