25 - I read your last post again (actual, I read it a few times). Throughout this journey I have always appreciated your advice, guidance and optimism.
I don't think that communicating through Ls right now would be ideal....it just seems pointless and expensive and chances are she will try to levy ANY amount of legal fee that she incurs against me. I will just assume that she knows that spousal maintenance it coming to an end and her monthly income will be cut by a fairly substantial amount. I don't think it would do any good to give her a heads up on it at all. It is what it is at this point and it is not my responsibility.
I also don't know if there would be any value in communicating in a brief, impactful way with her. I mean, at this point she knows EVERYTHING....I mean, I have emptied out a dozen pens writing letters along the way. Nothing seems to really reach her and I think I have run out of words. Truthfully, I think for the first time I am actually saying more with silence and detachment than anything else.
I was very brief and barely spoke to her at all during the exchange last night. I don't even know if I even looked at her that much. She told me that she was moving on Thursday and I just said "I know". She asked me how I knew and I just said "you told me". That was pretty much it. I usually walk son out to the driveway and let him wave good-bye to her and squeeze in one last hug and kiss - but last night I just closed the door behind her at that was it. Clearly I did not do the best job of being up beat and positive....and I regret that, but part of me wants to make it clear that we are not "OK". I honestly don't know if that is the right or wrong thing to do.
I am going to start the paperwork to alter our parenting schedule so I have 50% time and also adjust child support. Small things, but big steps for me.
