Think of this, TL. Now that everything is over and done, he no longer has any reason to feel ANY pressure. I read that the MLC isn't running FROM us but from the pain and pressure they "feel" (even if we don't see how we cause them to feel ANY pressure doesn't mean their messed up brains don't feel it)and now, there's nothing he can see as "pressure" from you. You have been able to detach and leave him be (great job by the way)and the last things are now gone. Hopefully now he will start to see when he still doesn't "feel" happy or better he will at least start to come to terms with the fact that you never were the cause but that will take a great deal of time. But maybe, just maybe he can to begin to understand.
It seems like many MLCers just can't start to come to terms with the fact that their S isn't the thing that caused this until they cut EVERY tie. (my wife is going in that direction, seemingly unable to admit it isn't her M as long as there is still any tie, no matter how much "space" I give her)maybe now he can at least begin to see this.
In the meantime, keep GALing, act "as if' he will never come back, work on you. Hang in there TL! we're all on your side!
