I think u just nailed it Starsky.... for 20 years, I hadn't changed the dynamic... wanting marriage commitment. Not allowing him to "want" it on his own. I "expected" it... just like now since BD... expecting to reconcile. Controlling.
I need to let go of his wheel!!! I am changing that dynamic so that he can come to his own conclusions. (He has already stated he wants commitment & wishes he had bought me a ring).
I just need to let him drive.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
