He'll huff and he'll puff - my intro

[ladylu]

So I think I stumbled on to the affair this weekend. It is not hard proof but my gut. It is a friend that I know also and it was kind of unfathomable that she would be involved with him. I had considered it a possibility that he was in love with her but that she didn't know. But as I say I stumbled into it (figuratively not literally) and her behavior and then his behavior were so unique. I think they think they threw me off the trail. They both think they are geniuses and so I kind of played dumb. I don't know if it is a physical relationship and I don't totally get it but like I said, my gut says there it is.
She is married and with a small kid that is friends with ours. Her H is clueless. I am really quite shocked at her.
Doogie on the other hand is one sick puppy. I do truly believe he is in MLC however, I also think that he is really warped and that is his original condition, predating his first marriage. Considering all this I must say that I do not know that standing is going to be the right long term solution. I don't want to drink MLC kool-aid that our past didn't have real love, but you know I am not certain that he is capable of real relationships versus just his fantasy version.
Honestly I had my biological clock ticking and ended up with two great kids, and now a lot of personal growth and insight into myself. Do I really need to try to force it to be more than a chapter in my life?