Keeping the secret

[LoisB]

Hey CC! I'm glad you stopped in to let us know what is going on.

I'm sorry friend.

I can relate to your situation. If I can do this, so can you. We are tough ladies and we will not be defeated by their problems.

Personally I'm doing really well. I'm not as anxious as my last post. I'm trying to live in the moment as much as possible. I'm loving my kids......sounds silly but my focus has been on h so long, it's nice focusing on them.

I don't think it sounds silly at all. I think it sounds human. You have tried your best to hold you family together. He isn't cooperating. So, not it's time to let go for your own sanity.

I'm a little further down the road in terms of the time on this journey and my kids have had almost 2 years of very little contact with their dad. They are fine. In the beginning, having no father in their lives broke my heart. Now, I'm seeing that many children have less than ideal situations--no family is perfect--and, in some ways, my kids are luckier for having their broken father living away from them. They have the time and space to grieve and recover from the loss.

So many kids are stuck in situations where they are forced to spend time daily with very broken parents--those are the kids I hurt for. My kids have my support, love and, most of all, a safe place to feel whatever they feel without having to walk on eggshells.

Much Much Love,

Heather