I think I belong here #3

[TL72*]

Hi Praying
D is definitely not the end of the world - just a piece of paper and it does enable you to rebuild easier I think. check out your local area for a divorce group. I'm in one now and it's only 6 weeks and it's free, one night a week. Well it was 5 dollars for the books, a really good deal and it has helped me tremendously. The book is "rebuilding when your relations ends" by bruce fisher - if you don't find a group i highly recommend the book. Job is right, you won't have to walk on eggshells any longer and your home is your own sanctuary once he is out. rearrange furniture, paint, change out pictures, i got rid of all reminders. now I enjoy coming home, i can eat what i want, when i want, i even sleep better. It's painful but you know that, actually the D wasn't painful to me so much, the BD was the worst and when he moved out, that was the worst possible day for me, but I knew if I could get through that first night, I would be fine and I did and each day I can heal a little more. Divorce day was just like any other day to me and now I can move forward and continue working on me. He thinks this will make everything better for him, he'll realize soon that it doesn't make anything better. this doesn't mean that someday he won't come out of this and want to start a new relationship, but you should go on "as if" that won't happen and focus on you and the kids and your new life. letting go is pretty difficult, like detaching, but it is something we all have to do for our own health. journal, journal, journal and I think it was bklynmom that mentioned listing things you're grateful for - that does help, I do that too, there are so many other people that are in worse positions than we are. We are so blessed in so many ways, focus on the positive and those blessings. we're all here for you (((hugs)))