Barrybran

[Barrybran]

I haven't read a book on surviving an affair. If anyone knows of a good one, I'd love to know.

I want to live from my core. The honour thing jumps out and I feel there are two ways to look at it: that I leave the house because I was unfaithful to my wife and that I stay and stand up for my family and marriage. After yesterday, I feel that I should move out if things continue to be untenable. I'm just not sure about what I should do right now. It's only been one full day with the new one-bed-apartment set up, I went for a walk instead of sitting at home in front of the TV and I stood up for myself by saying I'm not leaving so it's not exactly a large sample size of how things will be under these conditions.

I have some time to myself today so I'll sort a couple of things out and get the ball rolling on me moving out while I continue to think about what I want to and should do. I'll also work on finding out what a "safe, happy home" feels like to my wife in our conversations. Most importantly, I'm going to just leave her alone and make myself scarce where possible and see what happens.