I am thinking of hiring a PI for evidence of PA. Because if he loses job I can sue H and OW for emotional distress and loss of money.
Why spend the money just to "find" evidence of PA?! I don't think it is good use of your time and resources. Instead, work with the assumption that it is indeed a PA and I am pretty darn sure from what you post here on H's behavior.
Suing them will not HELP your sitch at all. It'll just make you look like a vindictive b!tch. Do you want them to see you in that light? In fact, it will move you further from your goal: reconciliation. Take the high road, Scooby.
I feel like she needs to be attacked
Just so you can come out as a "victor" in this "war"? For what??!!! This ins't Hunger Games, sweetie. She's not worth this kind of energy at all. Look past the OW and don't acknowledge her at all.
Furthermore if H loses job, it will hit the media and why.
If this does happen, then let the media do your job like with John Edwards and his ex-mistress. Sit back and watch this movie unfold.
So as you can tell I can detach from all the MLC nonsense - except the EA and PA. I don't know how to detach from it. Suggestions?
You are not detached at all. Far, far from it. Trust me, you are not in a "unique position" nor the first. We've all been where you are now. The only way to detach from all of this is to let it all wash over you. The OW is nothing to be scared of at all. Nothing! She's a small Z-level actress in your own movie.
