Hi TVS. Thank you, what you wrote and the way you put it have helped. It also helps to hear from someone who actually has had some success getting through and have seen their MLC S start to recant some of the spew. It's hard at times hearing from lbs spouses who have gone through 6 years of this only to have the MLC never come out of the tunnel at all.
Yes, I would do the same for a good friend and I need to remember this is how I need to see my W for now. One of the things that make it hard is how my W starts to seem to make progress and then she talks to her father (she did this when I was at church with her GM today) and after that she is awful and treats me with almost contempt! This man and the way he hurt her for so many years is likely the biggest cause of her pain and here she lets him do this to her! Ugh!
If I can just keep doing the right things like working on myself and being a friend to my W, maybe someday I too may hear my wife realize she was wrong. Maybe not but I need to do the work on myself either way. Thanks again, really needed to hear this today!
